[Tango-L] The call to tango, and "gender polarization"

[David Hodgson]

Part 2.....

Hey Nina;
Doah (slapping on forehead), I did not mention some very important things I
bring with me.
1.	Having a walk in the park with Mat'e. Since all the knowledge of the
universe is in the Mat'e gourd not only is this shared. But you get to make
up all sorts of cool, kooky, knowledge to share.
2.	I may not be dancing with exactly the woman I am writing about at
the moment. Even if it appears she has shown up during an evening,
appreciate the gift for what it is.
3.	I can hold my own in a kitchen, and was given a Flan recipe. I will
make and want to share, nuff said.     



-----Original Message-----
From: tango-l-bounces at mit.edu [mailto:tango-l-bounces at mit.edu] On Behalf Of
Nina Pesochinsky
Sent: Friday, September 29, 2006 1:35 AM
To: TANGO-L at mit.edu
Subject: Re: [Tango-L] The call to tango, and "gender polarization"

Hi, David,

Yes. you can have such a partner.  But only when you yourself are 
able to bring to the experience something equivalent to what you have 
requested in such a partner.  So what would that be?

Thank you.

Nina

At 07:58 PM 9/28/2006, you wrote:
>Nina, I liked your email earlier a lot and have a few thoughts and about
>tango in a bit but first.
>
>I like the menu. So Nina, for my platter could I have Morticia Adams (TV
>show), Maggie Gyllenhaal, Laura San Giacomo in one partner with lots of
>resolved life experience, a good dollop of humorous sarcasm, a strong
>underlying Tango expression, clarity of personal expression, and has a
>penchant for speaking Spanish in a smooth sensual way.
>For music Biagi, pugliasi and desarli, with a large sprig of Piazzola and
>small sprigs of Delirium, and Peter Murphy.
>A cabernet from Mendoza that has warmth, a little tannin, lingers nicely,
>with a nice finish of allure.
>Will not ask for a wonderful dance experience, will discover that as we
move
>through the evening.
>Thank you.
>
>
>-----Original Message-----
>From: tango-l-bounces at mit.edu [mailto:tango-l-bounces at mit.edu] On Behalf Of
>nina at earthnet.net
>Sent: Thursday, September 28, 2006 12:03 PM
>To: tango-l at mit.edu
>Subject: Re: [Tango-L] The call to tango, and "gender polarization"
>
>People are free to follow or not to follow the codes, and their choice
>is reflected int he consequences.  There is a lot of whining going on
>in all tango communities about the social discomfort, not dancing
>enough, etc.  But the bottom line is that tango experience is what you
>make of it.  No one is going to bring to anyone on the platter a
>fabulous dance experience, a great milonga, good connection, beautiful
>music, respect, a great dance partner and all those other things that
>that everyone wishes and hopes for.  If those great things happen,
>then marvelous and a bit thank you and appreciation are in order.  But
>eople just need to decide what they want and go and create it.  And
>the tango codes help them to have the same language with others who
>are also there to create their own experience.
>
>Nina
>
>
>Quoting Caroline Polack <runcarolinerun at hotmail.com>:
>
>
> > Just when I promised myself never to post to Tango-L again....after
> > reading this particular sentence, I nearly choked on my coffee.
> >
> > Codes and Traditions of Tango may have INTENDED to protect dignity and
> > emotions but they are not always adhered to as much as we would like.
> > No need to explain this here because I'm quite sure everyone has had
> > bad moments at Milongas.  If those said codes and traditions are not
> > adhered to in a consistent fashion then they are not really
> > traditional, are they? After all the reading I've done on the subject
> > of Tango - particularly from personal perspectives - it seems that
> > tango evokes as much anguish and dejection as it does passion and joy.
> >
> > As for code of conduct - hmmm....the only code of conduct that I see
> > being respected is that an embrace is just an embrace, not a suggestion
> > that the man/woman wants anything more from you than a mutual enjoyment
> > of a tanda.  Asides from that, there are always moments of discomforts
> > in a social setting such as a milonga.
> >
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>
>
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