[Tango-L] tango moment

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Hi Jackie,

Very nice point.

This reminds me of an astute comment a friend of mine once made to me. 
She said that there are three major things that attract people to the 
dance: the music, the connection, and the moves. (There may have been a 
fourth, but I can't recall the conversation well enough, alas.) She 
pinpointed me as one who dances for the music: no matter what it is, I'm 
going to connect to it, dance to it, live for it. Others, she advised 
me-- and a large portion of others-- dance for the connection. They want 
it, no matter what else they get. (I've since seen a few people who 
dance primarily for the moves-- they're the ones who have no connection 
to the social circuit, and seemingly no connection to the music. A lot 
of stage performance is like this, I find.)

Anyway, I thought the notion a wise one. It seems like it would apply 
especially well to discussions of the "tango moment" (whatever those 
words mean to you, so long as they mean something), because it seems 
like at such times, Everything becomes suffused with the main event, as 
it were. Also, I suspect that this way of looking at things can help us 
better understand how there are different kinds (and degrees) of tango 
moments-- a clarification I stumbled through in a prior post on the subject.

Any other thoughts?

Jake Spatz
Washington, DC


jackie ling wong wrote:
> ummmm...  i'm thinking that because this person in the psychology  
> field that she would like the moment described in a language she  
> would understand...  so here's my attempt
>
> a friend of mine is a rock climber and he is very much driven by his  
> struggle to overcome his fear of heights.  we decided that much of  
> life is driven by fears...  fear of rejection... fear of intimacy...  
> fear of failure... fear of achievement... the list goes on and on...
>
> so how does this relate to tango?  when i explain tango to beginners  
> i mention connection and then ask what do they think they need to be  
> connected to...  most people say your partner and the music.  i also  
> add the floor, the people around you, and also the spaces between the  
> people around you... but most important you must be connected to  
> yourself...
>
> when you dance you bring your issues with you.  we have a student who  
> is in extensive therapy who has issues of trust...  and it shows in  
> her dance...  not only does she not trust her partner to lead her and  
> keep her safe, she doesn't trust herself.  we can talk ourselves  
> until we're blue in the face about technique but nothing will change  
> until she trusts.
>
> so first for the tango moment to happen, you have to overcome  
> relevant personal fears and subsequent insecurities and find your  
> "center".. the emotional/spiritual center...  you need to be  
> comfortable with yourself and open to the moment.  that complete  
> trust and abandonment of fears is what makes tango so attractive to  
> me.  walking into someone's arms and being there 100 % and feeling  
> them respond in the same way is magical.
>
> jackie
> www.tangopulse.net
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