[Tango-L] secrecy

[Melanie Eskoff]

I find it interesting that people like this little thing that goes,"if it's a private post, then it's private."  I have never knowingly shared a private post until now.  I found this one too off topic to justify honoring the code of silence.   Alberto was the one who didn't respect the differences between us.  I do not know him and he dosen't know me from Eve.  If it makes anyone feel better to think I'm a prude, good.  Perhaps that will help balance my reputation.  ;-)

I think what really rubs some people the wrong way about it, is that it exposes too much.  It ruins the illusion that allows them to give themselves into an embrace with a stranger, or even an acquantance.  We assume that we have a lot in common, because we share a love of dance, when that may or may not be true.  It is disconcerting and upsetting to have the awareness that we're sharing something that can feel so intimate with someone, who if we knew them better under everday circumstances, we would choose not to associate.  The whole unvarnished truth can be icky indeed.  Best to keep it behind closed doors, huh?  You know what they say about sex, politics and religion.

Alexis' post attributed to me about about "When on the above occasion one of them presses the other's body forcibly 
> against a wall or pillar, it is called a `pressing embrace'.
> 

was actually his own post to me.  I'm not that witty.

ME