[Tango-L] leading and following

[Razor Girl]

Hi,

I just finished catching up on some of the recent
posts about leading.  Without respect to any one of
them in particular, I just have one thing to say.

Dear Leaders, just because she follows it doesn't make
it a good lead.

Moreover, I think the role of following is largely
overlooked on this list.  I would like to remind
leaders that a woman always has a choice whether to
follow what you lead, and how to follow it.  There is
nothing you can lead without her consent.  The very
best you can do is to make requests....that is the
essence of good leading.

Regards,
Rose 
Portland, OR