[Tango-L] Where can I find more Milonga at milongas?

[Nussbaum, Martin]

I am interested in finding out about cities, locations, festivals,
particularly near US-NE but happy to hear about any location, where Milonga
is played and danced more frequently at milongas. Where I am (NYC), the
usual DJ protocol is one tanda of 3 milonga per hour, or about 8 minutes
total.  Since I love dancing milonga, this isnt enough for me. Not only
that, but the DJ's tend to play the same 5 or 6 milongas over and over, and
I know from the instructors who visit for milonga workshops and bring their
music (ie Facundo and Kely) there is a wealth of varied and interesting
milonga and candombe out there.  To compund my difficulty, most (not all)
followers here prefer to rest during Milonga and dance tangos, while I
always dance milongas and rest during tangos.  The followers often ask me to
return to ask them when a tango is played, so I'm fairly sure its not my
lack of skill. Some followers tell me milonga is a "guy" thing.  Maybe
that's true, since the traspie requires a nice closer embrace to really
rock.  So, are there locations out there where the women absolutely and
fearlessly love to dance milonga, and where the DJs are willing to (gasp)
shake up the traditional sequences? 
Desperately Seeking Milonga