[Tango-L] Tango-L covert attacks

[Michael]

I never experienced this type of contact but I read other off-the-wall
comments. I looked at Tango L as a fountain of information. I never
suspected that colossal egos were involved.

 

I belong to another list (which has nothing to do with tango.) There's a guy
who flames. (Somebody on the list diagnosed him as having disassociate
personality disorder.) He will start arguments and twist what people write
to justify his comments. He loves to write "You lose. I win" though nobody
can quite figure out what he won. This is a moderated list that nobody
moderates.

 

This was the mentality of some posters on Tango L. They had to be right and
tried to destroy those who contradicted their belief system.  I was
unprepared for this behavior and stepped onto a few landmines. 

 

There will never be universal agreement on how to dance tango. Instead of
appreciating diversity, it was "my way or get off Tango L." Posters who you
thought were your friends were stabbing you in the back in PMs. 

 

Moderation has to be discussed before the list is resurrected. Yes, rules
were posted but they were often ignored by the same people over and over.
(I'm not mentioning any names.)

 

Michael

Came home to New York where the Argentine Tango is better

 

 

-----Original Message-----
From: Steve Littler
Sent: Tuesday, April 14, 2015 10:38 PM
Back around 2008 when I had been dancing for about 1 year I mentioned in a
thread on Tango-L that I was taking some private lessons and how much it was
accelerating my progress.

 

Then some guy from NYC contacted me off-list and asked me what kind of
dancer I was to take private lessons at such an early stage in my tango
career and what kind of teacher would accept someone as a private student
who hadn't been dancing already for 3 years minimum, and that this would
never be done in NYC since the quality of the student would reflect on the
teacher, and the status of the teacher had to be preserved.

 

Did anyone else experience a similar contact.

 

Abrazos! ~ El Stevito de Gainesville