[Tango-L] Men's strategies

[sherpal1@aol.com]

Andrew, I am not sure the woman initiates the process...what really 
happens is that an old friend or desirous partner sees her on the floor 
or at a table, he nods, she nods and then he invites her to the dance 
after he finished the one he is currently dancing.  Women who initiate 
are very vulnerable to a rebuff...if anything, it might be a 
simultaneous recognition and response.  This has happened to me many 
times over the years....I will enter a milonga, a man is dancing, he 
sees me, he recognizes me, acknowleges me, we both smile and say hello 
with our eyes, then he gives a little signal with his head, eyes, 
finger, that we will have a dance soon.  But I would never initiate 
anything with my demeanor to indicate I want to dance with him.    
Sherrie


-----Original Message-----
From: Andrew RYSER SZYMAÑSKI <arrabaltango at yahoo.co.uk>
To: hbboogie1 at aol.com
Cc: sherpal1 at aol.com; tango-l at mit.edu
Sent: Sat, Jun 18, 2011 12:46 pm
Subject: Re: [Tango-L] Men's strategies


--- On Fri, 17/6/11, hbboogie1 at aol.com <hbboogie1 at aol.com> wrote:


.......when a man dances he must 'PUT ALL THE MEAT ON
> THE FIRE" this means he must give all of his attention to
> the music and the woman he has in his arms at the moment.
> Any man, no matter what his name is disrespecting the woman
> he's dancing with if he's paying attention to another woman
> while dancing. If he's doing it to someone else probably
> doing the same thing while he's dancing with you,this is
> total disrespect for you. What are you thinking about while
> dancing, are you checking out the other men figuring out who
> you want to dance with next? Think about it!

It's not just the music & the woman! Part of "PUT ALL THE MEAT ON
THE FIRE" involves navigating, making sure you don't run her into the 
furniture
or other couples. So you need to keep your eyes wide open, including 
lateral
vision. So if you are any good you will be in the outer lane, close to 
the
tables, and you can't help seeing those sitting at said tables. It's 
your job.
You would be dumb not to spot an invitation from at least 2/3 women 
each time
you go round the floor. So, yes, the woman does the first move; the man
eventually responds; if he doesn't, he either doesn't want to know, or 
he is too
dim & hasn't noticed, In which case she doesn't want to know him either 
& good
riddance with no time wasting being tortured on the floor.

Andrew W. RYSER SZYMAÑSKI,
23b All Saints Road,
London, W11 1HE,
07944 128 739.