[Tango-L] the fear of close embrace

[Michael]

Dear Tangonista:

To answer your question below, I think YOU have issues.

My message was directed to dancers who want to advance to close embrace but 
feel something is holding them back. Nothing was directed to those who only 
want to dance open.

Have you ever considered that those who dance open take up more space than 
those who dance close? Have you ever considered that larger figures lead to 
collisions because leaders don't pay attention to navigation?

Close embrace isn't for everybody and I wouldn't maul nor threaten a woman 
into dancing close embrace. Some women look for a warm invitation and 
respond by dancing close embrace.

Michael
I danced Argentine Tango --with the Argentines

From: "meaning of life" <kushi_bushi at hotmail.com>
Sent: Thursday, September 16, 2010 3:52 PM

> have you all ever considered that some people enjoy dancing a more open 
> embrace? enjoy seeing each others faces as they dance? enjoy sliding their 
> bodies past each other? enjoy the larger figures? enjoy the more dramatic 
> dance permited by a more open embrace? enjoy the athletiscm that a more 
> open embrace permits, even encourages?
>
> have you ever considered that starting slowly and allowing a more open 
> embrace,  larger figures and a more dramatic dance might improve your 
> recruitment and retention? especially among younger dancers?
>
> have you ever considered that some people feel mauled and threatened 
> (especially good looking females) by the pack of wolves that descend on 
> them DEMANDING close embrace dances and belittling their hesitation to 
> have their "personal boundries" invaided by "stinky old men"? and this 
> destroys your retention, especially among younger females?
>
> i'm just asking. who is it that has the issues?
>
> The Tangonista