[Tango-L] Socio-ethical behavior and protocol

[Lois Donnay]

It should also be noted that some young tango dancers in Buenos Aires tell 
me that they also do not like the protocol that does not allow them to sit 
with their friends. Part of the reason that they prefer the practicas like 
Villa Malcom, as well as the queer milongas, etc, is that they can sit with 
each other, or sit where they would like.

I tend to agree with them - I hate the idea of sitting away from my male 
friends at a milonga. When I go to a milonga with a male friend, I just get 
him to dance with another woman first. Then other men start to ask me, with 
his permission. We probably get away with it because we do not look at all 
like portenos. The challenge is getting the organizer to seat us in an area 
that is not defined as for either women, men or couples.  Some milongas are 
more traditional, and more difficult, and some are not so traditional.  It's 
nice to have choices.

Loisa Donnay
Minneapolis


> Sergio,
>
> The manners you highlight, must be reserved to certain milongas in BsAs 
> and
> for the locals.  It was not what I observed how they treated the group I 
> was
> travelling with to BsAs or to other tourists.  On the whole the men 
> behaved
> as men do here in Australia.  Yes I did observe the cabeco in some 
> milongas.
>
> Vince
> In Melbourne
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: tango-l-bounces at mit.edu [mailto:tango-l-bounces at mit.edu] On Behalf 
> Of
> Sergio Vandekier
> Sent: Thursday, 19 August 2010 1:06 AM
> To: Tango-L List
> Subject: [Tango-L] Socio-ethical behavior and protocol
>
> This behavior is considered very poor manners. The invitation to dance 
> must
> be done with a stare and a nod (cabeceo).
>
> Only poor dancers, or inconsiderate men come from the side or from behind 
> to
> ask a lady to dance.