[Tango-L] Comment on the post "How do you decide who to dance with?"

[Amaury de Siqueira]

I have been for so long hitting the delete key for most tango postings that often times i forget the reason for such mechanical and thoughtless behavior.

So then sometimes I tell myself... maybe I am too critical or simply wrong about the ideas posted in the list... 

In these moments of self-doubt I make the mistake to read a posting...invariably something like the ideas below...

Then I immediately remember the reasons why I should and will continue to hit the delete key before ever opening any of the comments in this list.

Not to leave without a more constructive commentary I will say this:

Tango is a social activity which I construed to mean that we are operating in a social environment... for me to be social is not to have a critical list of prerequisites guiding who I dance or not with.  To be social is to leave one's professional and emotional baggages out of the door and enter a space willing to try... willing to make mistakes and above all willing to live.

Out of this thread and the list.... what a waste.

Amaury

> 
> --- On Fri, 3/20/09, Noughts
> <damian.thompson at gmail.com> wrote:
> 
> > From: Noughts <damian.thompson at gmail.com>
> > Subject: Re: [Tango-L] How do you decide who to dance
> with?
> > To: "Steve Littler"
> <sl at stevelittler.com>
> > Cc: tango-l at mit.edu
> > Date: Friday, March 20, 2009, 9:39 AM
> > I always dance with my partner first and last - if
> that is
> > possible.
> > If I have to excuse myself to freshen up at either end
> of
> > the night
> > and miss either the first or last, c'est la vie.
> > 
> > However like others, then I love to dance my
> "warm
> > up" tanda's with
> > people I know who are forgiving and kind to me and
> allow me
> > to get the
> > kinks out so to speak.
> > 
> > Then, depending upon the music as to whom I dance with
> - I
> > rarely
> > dance a milonga with anyone but an experienced dancer
> and
> > one that I
> > have shared time with doing tango first.  Milonga has
> so
> > little
> > reaction time for the follower that you want to know
> that
> > the partner
> > can keep up with change of pace, syncopation and quick
> > changes of
> > direction first.  Vals I dance with either beginnners,
> or
> > advanced and
> > Tango with all.  Nuevo (if you want to label) with
> more
> > advanced, but
> > not only.
> > 
> > As for the order, whomever is available, but
> sometimes, I
> > like to
> > watch too... sometimes people forget that this is also
> a
> > chance for
> > men, women and kids if they are dancing or there, that
> we
> > all like to
> > watch and see how everyone else is going.
> > 
> > I don't care about age, weight, race or religion -
> love
> > to dance with
> > people that connect, the reason we are there ;-)
> > 
> > Damian
> > 
> > 
> > PS - I'll dance with men too, if we run short but
> hey,
> > isn't that how
> > we improve?  :-)
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