[Tango-L] The Do's and Don'ts of Inviting and Accepting

[Vince Bagusauskas]

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                >I don't know if I would make it "required reading for 
newbies". Some
                newbies can take a document like this as a set of absolute 
rules, and
                obey them whether they make sense or not.


As Ney said: if it were "somewhat adhered to" it would make life a little 
better.  Not surprisingly, several dancers have thanked my acquaintance for 
posting that link.

People new to Tango (or even those who are proficient at it) won't be 
necessarily be reading Tango L.  And they won't read about the do and dents 
here in an easily digested form, from all of the numerous threads on the 
subject.  How many schools actually hand out a "instructions" on how to 
behave at a milonga?  Certainly the schools I have been to, do not.  One 
tango club I went to did have some etiquette rules (a "Surviving Tango 
 Guide") that were given to people only when they joined.  Schools could do 
no worse by referring students to Ney or tweak them to suit their local 
circumstances.

           >I think it's gauche to take your shoes off as a signal that you 
don't
           want to dance. But I suppose that's just me.
I have seen it used.

          >What are the best and worst rejection lines you have ever heard
  As you said:
"I'm resting" excuse, and then dances a few seconds later with somebody 
else.