[Tango-L] Dark milongas prevent Cabeceo

[Michael]

Ta:
The issue is more than just lighting. Very few people use cabeceo.Some 
people look comatose while they wait for a dance. They don't look around the 
room for a partner, they just stare into the dance floor.

It's just like ballroom. Women just wait to be asked. Never mind that it 
would help to show some interest that they want to dance.  Some look 
absolutely amazed when they are asked.

With cabeceo, it's 50-50. It's not entirely the man's responsibility to ask. 
The woman has an active role. It seems that women feel their role is to 
wait-- and wait-- until a tango knight rescues them.

Michael
I danced Argentine Tango - - with the Argentines

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From: "Tango Mail" <tango at springssauna.com>
To: <tango-l at MIT.EDU>
Sent: Tuesday, June 09, 2009 3:22 PM
Subject: [Tango-L] Dark milongas prevent Cabeceo (was Invitation and 
refusal)


Why do you feel it necessary to keep the room so dark?

 I've gone as far as deciding not to attend any more milongas or festivals 
that have in the past been kept too dark for cabeceo.  One of these is the 
Baltimore tango
> fest.  I won't return until  assured that the lighting has been taken care 
> of.  The "barn" was so  dark last year that you could  have fornicated in 
> the corner without much notice or attention.  I  wasn't even able to make 
> a cabeceo work from 10-feet away, so I left after one or two tandas of 
> dancing and lots of sitting.
>
 Ta.