[Tango-L] Refusing a dance... <was Re: Is it Balls, or just a Heel?>

[Steve Littler]

Yes. Very good points Dubravko.

And I complicate it further myself by asking favorite partners ahead of 
time for "the next Milonga" etc. Then maybe it's a slow milonga I don't 
care for. Ugh. <shooting-self-in-foot>

Or a lady will ask me to dance, but it's a Milonga and she's too new for 
that or too short for me to enjoy myself, and then I have to put her off 
until another Tango tanda that's more suitable. But most of these ladies 
I know pretty well and I can decline politely.

El Stevito de Gainesville

Dubravko Kakarigi wrote:
> In the absence of cabeceo, I find the situation even more complicated when a lady comes to ask me to dance and I do not want to dance with her or just do not wish to dance at the moment (tired, want to watch, not inspired by the music, whatever).
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> I am also always utterly puzzled when some ask folks to dance the next tanda before they ever heard the first bar of the music, many times at the very end of the previous tanda/beginning of the cortina. It's totally amazing. I would not do it even with my most favorite dancing partner. How in the world do you know you'd want to dance at all? To me, if I do not like the music being played it is not likely that I would "give" my partner a good dance. So, what's up with that?
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