[Tango-L] Shocked

[Nina Pesochinsky]

This discussion reminds me of dancing with milongueros in 
1997-1998,  I do not recall even one time when a man had corrected me 
at a milonga, and I had danced only aout 2-3 years then and was a 
rank beginner.  What they did instead was magic - they lead a step 
again and again, until I got it and learned what I needed to 
do.  There was grace and infinite value in that because they gave me 
knowledge of the dance without using any words.  And they did not 
break the magic of the moment.

To me, there is some distasteful banality to all words, in any 
language that I understand.  Even poetry can't compare with music and 
dance.  Only languages that I do not understand have some 
music.  Maybe the question that each person should ask, when an idea 
pops into his/her head to correct someone during a dance, is whether 
he/she wants to be right or to be happy.  Do we value perfection over 
a feeling?

In all human interactions, and in tango in this case, it might be 
useful to do a quick cost/benefit analysis in any 
situation.  Impulsivity carries a very high cost.

All the best,

Nina





At 07:59 AM 2/23/2009, Sergey Kazachenko wrote:
>It depends on the setting and context. If we are at a practica, and I
>know the partner is less skilled, I might ask "Do you want to practice
>or just dance?"
>If she wants to learn, we move to the center and practice. If just
>dance, we will do that, and if she does something wrong, I better have
>plan B ready!
>Of course, this is totally inappropriate in a milonga, where "just
>dance" is the only option.
>
>Sergey
>May you be forever touched by His Noodly Appendage... (
>http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flying_Spaghetti_Monster )
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