[Tango-L] Lead and follow

[Michael]

Mario:
I think you're missing the point. Imagine how a woman feels dancing. Shes moving backwards, unable to see. Yet, she has to entrust her safety and security to somebody who may not be paying attention to traffic. Women want to feel protected from harm. On top of that, they want a chance to use their skill without worrying about being pulled off balance.

I took a non scientifc random survey of women 8 years ago in Washington, DC and Denver and asked what they wanted in a partner. The answers were almost universal:

A lead that is on the beat
A lead that has confidence
A lead that is firm, but gentle

The whole dance revolves around the woman. When you understand and can give what the good followers want, you will be in demand. When the woman looks and feel good, that's when the man looks and feels good. I don't see how man can look good at the woman's expense.

As for "Give me a place where 'men are men' and 'women are women' ", I suggest you go to Lake Wobegone, MN "where all the women are strong; all the men good looking; all the children, above average."

Michael Ditkoff
Next year, I'm going to BA--for the first time

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Mario" <sopelote at yahoo.com>
To: <tango-l at mit.edu>
Sent: Friday, October 10, 2008 6:00 PM
Subject: [Tango-L] Lead and follow


I don't get it...why is the guy always the 'heavy'?
  Are men always the 'stupid' one? Always who 'needs improvement'?
  Always too thick to 'understand' that they should learn to dance in the woman's shoes, too?
  This just sounds like 'bull' to me..sorry.
  Give me a place where 'men are men' and 'women are women' ... then the fun really begins.