[Tango-L] Lead and follow

[Michael]

Lois:
How do you market the class? Remind people that there wasn't any Arturo Murray dance studio in Buenos Aires to teach tango. Men taught men. When men started to learn, they started as followers and the more experienced men would practice new figures with the new men. 

Tell women not to move unless they feel a lead. If the man complains she didn't do as directed, her response is "I followed what you lead, which might not be what you intended." She should then ask for his name, write it down, and never dance with him again. Sooner or later, the message might get through to the men who need your class. If women continue to dance with men who don't improve, the men have no motivation to improve. Women can tell over a period of time who is improving.

Michael Ditkoff
Going to make my 1st pilgrimage to tango Mecca next year
I'd rather be dancing Argentine Tango

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Lois Donnay" <donnay at donnay.net>
To: "Tango-L List" <tango-l at mit.edu>
Sent: Thursday, October 09, 2008 11:57 AM
Subject: Re: [Tango-L] Lead and follow


I am such a big advocate of leaders learning to follow!! But how do you get men to 
understand this?  But it is not attended by the people who need it - especially people who 
are teachers, or people who are teaching their followers (requested or not). How do you get 
leaders to work on following?

Lois Donnay
Minneapolis