[Tango-L] Ladies Leading

[Nina Pesochinsky]

Larry,

First, I had to laugh.  Now I can be serious.

So where did the men get the naive idea that following is not having 
"to think or be responsible or anything but just float along and
enjoy the music." ?!

I think that you should follow, but not a woman.  Follow a man who is 
good, and do wear 4" heels while dancing with him. (any 
transvestite/stage costume store should have something that you can 
use in large enough of a size to fit a man's foot).  And listen 
carefully to his musicality so that your feel land on the music.  If 
this works out right away, make sure that your body moves in such a 
way that everybody will know instantly that the man you are dancing 
with is a great dancer.   Start with that, if you dare.

I'd love to hear the report.

Best,

Nina

>At 07:07 PM 5/3/2008, larrynla at juno.com wrote:
> >The second Tuesday there starts here in L.A. a practica hosted by
> >CasaDePractica.com for ladies who lead.  I intend to go as a follower.
> >
> >When I first saw women leading (mostly) other women I was
> >annoyed.  It meant that TWO women were taken out of the pool of
> >women dancers.  I was also annoyed because most of the women had all
> >the bad qualities of beginning leaders: insensitivity to their
> >surroundings, trying movements too advanced for them, trying fast
> >and big movements which endangered others, and so on.
> >
> >As time went by I noticed more women leading, but grew less
> >annoyed.  As their average skill level improved they became less
> >dangerous.  It also dawned on me that here was a chance to learn to
> >be a follower.  I'd heard that learning to follow made (most) 
> leaders better.
> >
> >Also, in classes I'd had teachers who were really good leaders
> >demonstrate a technique by leading me in it.  It was fun.  I didn't
> >have to think or be responsible or anything but just float along and
> >enjoy the music.  It took me years to get to the point where I could
> >experience this "Zen tango" while leading and it might have taken
> >longer if I hadn't had some meditation training.
> >
> >So out of curiosity is this phenomenon, ladies leading, on the rise
> >in other areas?  And do they lead men a lot?
> >
> >Larry de Los Angeles
> >
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