[Tango-L] Melina's essay, "rudeness in Tango, " Tango-L postings

[rhink2@netscape.net]

Hello Subscribers,



Actually, this topic predates 2003.  I started a thread on tango 
etiquette in 2000 (http://www.cyber-tango.com/art/etiquette.html); I'm 
sure that earlier discussion is preceded by others, but I couldn't find 
any in the archives.



I will resurrect only 2 points, one personal and one pragmatic. I 
confess I do take it personally when someone mistreats another at a 
milonga. That bad behavior reflects on all of us through guilt by 
association. The offended party not doubt will relate the incident to 
friends probably giving the impression that all A. tango dancers are 
jerks.  Since I did nothing wrong, I'm offended as well.



The pragmatic point is that if we are to enjoy bigger, better, and more 
frequent tango events, we must grow the community. Clearly, rude 
behavior is counter-productive in that regard.



Bob