[Tango-L] Help to find masculinity in tango!

[Krasimir Stoyanov]

Igor,
Maybe your questions are not that well formulated as you think. I am not in 
a position to provide an advice on this matter, but will write some comments 
on your questions.

"But I am looking for advice how to make tango attractive for men who are
looking for masculinity in Tango"

This is far from clear question. What are these men who look for masculinity 
in Tango? When I first saw AT performance, I just said to myself - wow, this 
is beautiful, I wanna learn it. No masculinity or femininity questions in my 
mind. It was just natural to me.

Do you mean the males who are not sure what they are? I don't think they'll 
find it in tango, but it may help somehow. And I don't think this is the 
type you need to attract.

Or the ones, that think dancing is for women and for gays? Most of these are 
so sure of it, and so scared of dancing, that I doubt it you'll want to 
spend time convincing them, unless they are friends or relatives. The 
minority that have brains, will understand the simple argument that a dance 
in which "a man leads a woman" can't be a dance for gays.



"As for ladies, I am deeply interested how to teach them be more feminine,
find that feminine power in themselves dancing tango."


This is far more interesting question. Ladies keep telling me that they are 
modern women, and are used to leading, not following. Yet, they follow, but 
badly. Precisely because they don't give the control over their body. They 
follow, but don't surrender control. And this screws up the very nature of 
the AT movements. I don't think anyone can convince them, until they see or 
feel the difference. How can one show them? I don't know - tried many times, 
some women will let you show them, but will be so scared, that will spoil 
the attempt. Sometimes they are calm enough, they surrender, the dance 
becomes far more natural and pleasing, but . . . they don't seem to 
appreciate it, sometimes they even don't notice any difference. So my 
conclusion - people are not uniform, some have talents, some not. You can't 
force one to understand something, until he/she is ready for it.

Maybe it's the motivation - they don't see / feel / understand the beautiful 
results, so they are not motivated, and they don't utilize their feminine 
power.


So, this is what I am interested in - how to make them (both genders) SEE / 
FEEL the beauty of "entrega". I saw (felt) it myself, nobody taught it to 
me. So I don't know how to teach it to others. If possible at all. Trying 
all the time by showing good examples on YouTube - no perceivable effect so 
far.





----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Igor Polk" <ipolk at virtuar.com>
To: <tango-l at mit.edu>
Sent: Sunday, September 30, 2007 12:17 PM
Subject: [Tango-L] Help to find masculinity in tango!


> Hm...
> Really, for the first time I have posted a real life question which I have
> to resolve,
>
>
> and
> .. I only got 3 dumb answers of those who did not even bother to think 
> what
> I asked.
>
>
> Well, thanks a lot..
>
> Igor Polk
>
>
>
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