[Tango-L] reply to Sergio: There is no such a thing as bad publicity.

[Jay Rabe]

Sergio, amigo,
 
An amazing thing, that I get to be in the position of explaining Our culture to You.   ;-)
 
The United States was founded by Puritans, and much of our culture, particularly mores and taboos related to sex, still to this day are often tainted with a residual of unconscious puritanical attitudes. The one that relates to this subject is that it's not "nice", especially for a woman, to confront, and it's doubly not nice, and is even shameful, to talk about sex. It's another order of magnitude of "not nice" to talk about sex abuses. The deplorable fact of child and spousal abuse in this country would be non-existent by now if not for this tendency, in both men and women, to "look the other way" rather than confront and say, "This is wrong." The empowerment that Feminism has brought most certainly made the situation better, but the reluctance of many women to speak out against such things is, as I said, an unconscious "feeling" that is just their automatic response based on generations of cultural indoctrination that started with the Puritans.
 
The Argentine culture, in contrast, seems to have no shortage of strong, vocal women who have no problem with speaking out.
 
           J



> From: sergiovandekier990 at hotmail.com> To: tango-l at mit.edu> Date: Wed, 12 Sep 2007 19:19:37 +0000> Subject: [Tango-L] There is no such a thing as bad publicity.> > "Why didn't they just slap the guy and ask for their $$$> back? You'd be surprised how much women grit their teeth> and put up with on a daily basis, when survival or just> something they want badly is at stake."> > I find absurd that a woman will grit her teeth, continue taking lessons from > somebody that behaves like the teacher in question and then go and take him > to court.> > The tango community is small enough that talking these matters with other > members of the group will cause some of the organizers of events or some or > the managers of the milongas to have a talk with the teacher in > question...and women that do not like this type of 'training' not to take > lessons from him or even a more adult behavior, those women should have an > open discussion of the subject with the teacher himself or have the subject > discussed by the whole group.> > You have to be very naive to think that overt sexual touching and talk is > the same as tango, and then you should assume that there is something > drastically wrong with a male that perseveres in a behavior when it is > obvious that it is not well received.> > Best regards, Sergio.> > _________________________________________________________________> A place for moms to take a break! > http://www.reallivemoms.com?ocid=TXT_TAGHM&loc=us> > _______________________________________________> Tango-L mailing list> Tango-L at mit.edu> http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
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