[Tango-L] Pleasing the Woman

[Stephanie Arbogast]

Amen! 
Thank you Polly, you have captured the essence of partner dancing -
everything else is exhibition...  

Stephanie
Seattle


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Sent: Saturday, July 21, 2007 2:26 PM
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Subject: [Tango-L] Pleasing the Woman

     
 
Here's the deal:
Women could give a rip what the steps are.  We care  about how they feel.
 
If the embrace feels  good, the steps will likely feel good,  in open frame 
or close embrace.  Simple or complex.   

The man's task involves making the dance interesting, and that  involves 
rhythmic interpretations, changes of direction, etc.  If the  embrace is 
comfortable, we are ok with simple steps led with tenderness  and
musicality.  If the 
embrace is uncomfortable, the fanciest  steps in the world will be 
uncomfortable and will not please  us.
 
We love changes of direction and intimate check steps, but our  top priority

is how you hold us.  If the embrace feels nice enough to  just stand there
and 
not even move, we know the dance will be good.   This is the main reason 
that, in our opinion, some leaders can become  "good"  in a relatively short
time. 
 If they understand that we  care more about how the dance feels than how it

looks or what steps are  involved, they "get it."
 
To please the woman, concentrate on the embrace, then the  steps.  
 
Polly McBride
All Things Argentine Tango
Portland Oregon
 
 





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