[Tango-L] Fwd: Women's technique

[Trini y Sean (PATangoS)]

Hi Nancy,

Your assessment might be correct if I allowed myself to be
improperly danced with.  But that is not the case, and my
partner knew it.

But it was well before I became a teacher that I made a
point of practicing things like balance and sensitivity
with the inexperienced men.  So with guys who tended to use
their arms, I moved faster so that they couldn't use their
arms (sorta' like beating them to the punch).  For guys who
bounced, I worked on being smoother instead (I danced open
at that time).  It turned out that some of the guys picked
up on what their own problems were as my own problems
disappeared.

That's how I learned to become a much better follower.

Trini de Pittsburgh

P.S.  Since I pretty much dance with everyone at some point
(I am a teacher and community-builder after all), I use
other devices to signal to guys how well they are doing,
such as in what music I choose to dance with them, whether
I stall until song #3 in a tanda, or how I react after a
tanda.  So for them, it's not a question of getting a dance
but getting good reaction versus a polite "Thank You".


--- NANCY <ningle_2000 at yahoo.com> wrote:

> 
> --- Caroline Polack <runcarolinerun at hotmail.com>
> wrote:
> > we could ignore them and sit all night or dance with
> > them and work harder at 
> > maintaining our balance and axis while they get
> > practice. If we don't do 
> > that, then we look like fools on the floor not to
> > mention very ungraceful.  
> 
> On the other hand.....if Trini accepts a dance with
> big, off-balance guy and compensates for his lack of
> skills,  then he goes bouncing off the dancefloor,
> very proud of the fact that he danced so beautifully
> with "the best follower" in the room and it is the
> rest of us who are bad followers.  What is his
> incentive to get better?  Sorry, but we have too many
> of those guys on the dance floors and on Tango-L
> already.  I can agree to be ' more grounded' as long
> as it is no different than how I would dance with a
> good leader.  If he is pushing and pulling, I take my
> hand  away.  He understands that.  Even the rankest
> beginner should not be pulling me off axis.  If he is
> off beat, I can dance to the beat  until he gets it. 
> If he is truly awful, I can suggest we sit down and
> watch the dancers.  
> 
> Several folks have posted here recently about how
> unforgiving the portenas are about dancing with
> tourists.  No, they are not.  However, they will not
> dance with a bad dancer out of charity....unless, of
> course, they are bad followers - and there are plenty
> of those in Buenos Aires, too.  Some of those couples
> even enter the Campeonato Mundial.  
> 
> 
> 
> <<Rito es la danza en tu vida
>      y el tango que tu amas
>      te  quema en su llama>>
> de: Bailarina de tango
> por:  Horacio Sanguinetti
> 
> 
>  
>
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