[Tango-L] The Flying Dutchman

[Trini y Sean (PATangoS)]

Hi Fan,
   
  You've heard from Trini, so now I'll chime in. My advice would be to not dance with those scary leaders. They are a menace to the rest of us too! But as long as women are desperate enough to accept dances from these guys, why would they bother to improve? The most the other men can do is box these fools in, to force them to respect the other dancers. But that takes a full dance floor and at least 2 good leaders for every "Flying Dutchman". A rare occurance in the US.
   
  Women could eliminate these guys immediately, if they would just say no. In my (anecdotal) experience, when men repeatedly get turned down for a dance, their response is to try and learn to dance better. (With one notable exception.)
   
  Sean
   
  
Fantasia Sorenson <bichonheels at gmail.com> wrote:
  Many of us like to dance with our eyes closed. It helps us focus on the
enjoyment of the feeling of the dance, to shut out distractions. There are
other reasons, too.

I've visited large cities where the motor traffic is simply monstrous and I
must entrust my safety to drivers that apparently only recently occupied
cars at all much less drive them. Do I close my eyes when I ride in those
taxis? You bet I do!

The taxi metaphor is pretty apt. Keeping my eyes shut when I dance is great
for keeping me from being scared to death while I'm a passenger with a crazy
driver.

Here's another apt metaphor, The Flying Dutchman, the ghost ship doomed
never to return home.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Flying_Dutchman

I would say that 90% of the time when I'm dancing it's as if I'm a passenger
on The Flying Dutchman, doomed never to return home to the Line of Dance.
Our ship wanders aimlessly over the seven seas. I don't get to choose where
we go. Now, I'd feel safer if we just moved along the outside circle, or if
we remained relatively motionless in the middle. Instead, the captains tend
just to sail anywhere they see some room, whether it's in front of them in
the line of dance or somewhere in the middle of the floor. Hmmm... actually,
they frequently even head for destinations where they DON'T see any room.
They just hope for the best as they indiscriminately plough through the
64-count combination that the famous teacher just gleefully inflicted on a
milonga full of woefully unprepared (myself included) social dancers.

Yes, there will be flames. Everyone always touts the great importance of
caring for their female partners. However, I believe actions, not words.
Prove how much you care about me by guiding me to safe harbors, My Captain!

The eyes have it, but when I dance I clamp them shut.

Fan
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