[Tango-L] The call to tango, and "gender polarization"

[nina@earthnet.net]

People are free to follow or not to follow the codes, and their choice  
is reflected int he consequences.  There is a lot of whining going on  
in all tango communities about the social discomfort, not dancing  
enough, etc.  But the bottom line is that tango experience is what you  
make of it.  No one is going to bring to anyone on the platter a  
fabulous dance experience, a great milonga, good connection, beautiful  
music, respect, a great dance partner and all those other things that  
that everyone wishes and hopes for.  If those great things happen,  
then marvelous and a bit thank you and appreciation are in order.  But  
eople just need to decide what they want and go and create it.  And  
the tango codes help them to have the same language with others who  
are also there to create their own experience.

Nina


Quoting Caroline Polack <runcarolinerun at hotmail.com>:


> Just when I promised myself never to post to Tango-L again....after
> reading this particular sentence, I nearly choked on my coffee.
>
> Codes and Traditions of Tango may have INTENDED to protect dignity and
> emotions but they are not always adhered to as much as we would like.
> No need to explain this here because I'm quite sure everyone has had
> bad moments at Milongas.  If those said codes and traditions are not
> adhered to in a consistent fashion then they are not really
> traditional, are they? After all the reading I've done on the subject
> of Tango - particularly from personal perspectives - it seems that
> tango evokes as much anguish and dejection as it does passion and joy.
>
> As for code of conduct - hmmm....the only code of conduct that I see
> being respected is that an embrace is just an embrace, not a suggestion
> that the man/woman wants anything more from you than a mutual enjoyment
> of a tanda.  Asides from that, there are always moments of discomforts
> in a social setting such as a milonga.
>
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