[Tango-L] Some people would complain if you hung them with a new rope...

[Lee Ilan]

I suppose this is relevant if one aspires to behave or be treated as a "well behaved dog."  Not the case for me or any of the other women I know.
   
  Why knock switching roles if the leader and the follower enjoy it?  
   
  In general, the sexist "there's only one right way to do things" thread is getting pretty tired.  The right way to do things is what works for the partners in the moment.
   
  I do appreciate the discussion of eveyone's thoughts/expectations about who to dance with, and why, and when.  Often I find no evidence of souch thoughtful choices.  It seems that many people just dance with the folks they already know.  Doesn't matter if others are beginners, experienced dancers, good followers, or bad.  
   
  In this respect, I find that the community of swing dancers is probably the 'friendliest.'  The general attitude is to deliberately reach out to unfamiliar people, give the dance experience a try, and see what comes out of it.  If it's not intriguing or enjoyable in some way, one doesn't have to do it again.  The salsa world seems to be almost as bad (or perhaps worse?) than the tango scene in this respect.  It's almost as if you need a reference from someone already known to your potential partner before being asked to dance.  Too bad that the sense of adventure seems to be missing for many tangueros.  Do others notice this as well?  Or is it only an issue in New York?
  Ciao,
Lee
   
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  From: Lucia <curvasreales at yahoo.com.ar>
Subject: Re: [Tango-L] women leading

To have a well behaved dog never let her lead you
pulling on the leash in front of you...

Lucia ;->:


			
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