[Tango-L] endemic

[sherpal1@aol.com]

 chris wrote:

Actually, it is the women who do keep up their tango studies who drag down 
the community. Women who are so hung-up on men preferring less-studied 
girls that they've not stopped to think what it is about themselves that 
has made them into less desirable partners.

Meanwhile as Andy said, they continue to do every possible class and 
teacher in town. Never noticing that this is not the solution to their 
problem, but the cause.

Tragic.

Chris
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This postulate is so counter-intuitive and generalized a remark that it is 
not valid--do you really think that people who study more drag a community 
down....do you think all people who study more and dance less is attributable to 
the fact that they study more and that they probably have a personality problem? 
  I find that usually people who are underskilled usually never want to be 
judged by those who have more skills and accuse the better dancer of bitterness 
or other personality problems because they wish to be acknowledged, through 
dancing  more not less, of their ability and skill.  What I have learned is that 
people come to tango, any dance form, with lots of different agendas....the 
dancers who truly wish to be great are on the same dancefloor with those who 
come for social and or ego reasons.   And if the community does not orient 
itself to skill but more to social goals,,,,the skills become rather mediocre while 
at the same time the social component may be very rewarding...there may be an 
inverse relationship here between skillfull and social dancing....should 
clubs be rated by these criteria so we know what to expect when we join a club or 
go to a milonga? sherrie